BFFs, music legend Chynna Phillips tells HollywoodLife.com that she has a lot of “compassion” for what Lindsay is going through but she thinks Lindsay needs to step up and take control of her life.

Chynna Phillips has overcome many obstacles in her life and now she wants to offer up advice for other struggling stars, particularly Lindsay Lohan. We spoke to Chynna, June 8, about Lindsay’s recent sentencing to 90 days in jail for violating her probation, and she believes Lindsay can only look to herself during this tough time.

“In terms of Lindsay’s situation, we can all say ‘I had a terrible mother or I was thrown into this Hollywood world too young’ and that’s all absolutely true,” says Chynna. “But at the end of the day when the curtains are closed and all is said and done everyone is responsible for themselves … I feel very compassionate for her right now.”

Chynna, 42, thinks Lindsay’s recent troubles should compel everyone to look at their lives and try to find a way to make themselves a better person.

“When people find themselves in that predicament they should just look at themselves squarely and say ‘okay, what part did I take in this and what responsibility do I need to take in this situation right now,” says Chynna. “This is a good opportunity for anyone who is in a dark and frightening place to look at themselves and be able to say I need to make some changes and I’m the only person I can control, I can’t control others but I can control myself.”

Chynna, who has three children with her husband/actor Billy Baldwin — Jameson, 10, Vance, 8, and Brooke 6, realizes that many parents want to be friends with their children instead of choosing the route of tough love. She didn’t comment on Dina Lohan acting as more of a friend to Lindsay than a mother, but she did give us her best parenting advice.

“My best piece of advice is you can never say I love you enough to your children and never give them enough love and attention,” she says. “It’s a loving act to discipline and set boundaries. An adult sometimes is too concerned with kids being their friends.”

Chynna, formerly a member of one of the best selling female groups of all time, Wilson Phillips, just reunited with her bandmates Carnie Wilson, and Wendy Wilson to record their first ever Christmas album. The group has teamed up with Glen Ballard, their original music producer, most famous for co-writing Michael Jackson‘s “Man in the Mirror” and they are expected to release the album in the Fall.

-Chloe Melas