Wow: Kate Gosselin Wants A Man To Whip Her Kids Into Shape! Shouldn’t She Look For a Man to Love Them?
The newly made-over mom of eight is looking for romance but her dream guy sounds like a drill sergeant! Is that really what the Gosselettes need?
If Kate Gosselin was to write a personal ad for the man of her dreams, it wouldn’t include anything about candlelit dinners or moonlit walks along the sand. Oh no. It would sound something like: Single mother of eight seeks drill sergeant. Must have loud voice and be into yelling!
The 35-year-old tells Us Weekly that she wants “a tough guy, like a cop, to whip my kids into shape.” Yikes! That sounds like a direct slam on her ex, Jon Gosselin, who is the opposite of a tough guy. In fact he’s sort of soft and squishy.
Kate obviously comes from the tough love camp, as anyone who has seen her TV shows will know. Remember last year when her daughter Mady, 9, said she was thirsty and Kate ignored her, took a sip from a bottle of water and then placed it out of Mady’s reach? Her daughter tearfully cried, “You’re really really mean!” Kate’s retort? “Be quiet.”
Experts are concerned about Kate’s description of her “perfect” man. “Tough love is sort of a misguided attempt to discipline kids when they really need a combination of limits and parental affection and love and nurturing,” says pediatric psychiatrist Dr. Susan Abbott.
She suggests that Kate is looking for someone who’s the opposite of her laid-back ex-husband because she feels like she wants to make a better choice and “find a real partner who can love her kids and structure them.”
But bringing a tough guy into her family could also totally backfire. “She should not be looking to hook a guy who is going to be her children’s disciplinarian. That’s Jon and Kate’s job,” says relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle. “How long will it be before the children turn around and say, ‘You’re not my father!’”
What Kate should be doing is making an effort to get along with her ex and co-parent her children with him.
“I hope she’s not looking for someone else to be the parent in the situation,” says Dr. Abbott. “Divorced or not, Jon and Kate should be working together in all aspects of parenting.”
But Dr. Carle has some tough love of her own for Kate: “Do the work you’re supposed to do as a mother!” She says that Kate should be concentrating more on her children and less on a new relationship. “She shouldn’t be looking for any guy! If she’s out parading around looking for a man, her children are going to be left without a mother who’s emotionally present.”
And after the year those kids have had, that’s the last thing they need.
–Kathy Campbell
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Melissa
Posted at 2:06 PM on September 11, 2010
Beejcctx
Posted at 1:59 PM on September 7, 2010
sanaria
Posted at 10:59 AM on September 5, 2010
All this hint dropping about looking for a man, needing a man etc. is Kate laying the groundwork for soon making public her relationship with Steve. It’s coming folks, just wait for it. It would have come out a long time ago had that pesky Mrs. Neild not been around. The show is on it’s last legs and Kate needs someone to pay the mortgage on her mansion. It has probably been killing her that she has had to be nice to him for so long.
Lobo
Posted at 7:58 AM on September 5, 2010
Kate MAY have been ‘kidding” when she said it, however, if you watch her, she uses threats to control these kids. Not asking them but threatening them if they don’t do something she wants. Just pay attention and you will see it. Cara didn’t want to stand for a photo. GEE, can’t imagine why, it was only 103 degrees, and how many photos have these poor kids taken? She THREATENED to leave her with people she didn’t even know. This is her standard “parenting”.
MsGoodty2Shoes
Posted at 5:19 AM on September 4, 2010
sick bitch
Posted at 11:06 AM on September 3, 2010
oh please
Posted at 10:56 AM on September 3, 2010
What a complete jerk-off. Those kids already have a jack-booted thug for a mother. As usual, Kate’s instincts are way off. Those poor kids deserve so much more than what this sick, twisted narcissist has to offer. Grow up you loser. Being mean and nasty to your kids isn’t exactly endearing you to anyone.
Judy
Posted at 9:00 AM on September 3, 2010
anon
Posted at 10:42 PM on September 2, 2010
rachel
Posted at 9:50 PM on September 2, 2010
Dee
Posted at 9:18 PM on September 2, 2010
I feel so sorry for those kids. Again, Kate has decided to worry about her and what she needs rather than her kids. Look at their faces, they tell it all. She is miserable with them as they are with her. The difference between them and the Duggars: the Duggar kids look happy and laugh. Good luck to those Gosselin kids. She better start putting money towards their therapy bills.
Sarah
Posted at 9:08 PM on September 2, 2010
I am a single Mom, and decided not to date until my kids get much older because I don’t want to share my time with them. They grow up so fast, and I also do not want another man disciplining my children, that’s my job, I will do it when I see fit. Kate’s kids never look happy when they are with her. When is the last time you saw her just hug them, kiss them or just plain look like she wants to be with them? She disgusts me and is a poor excuse for a human being. I would take each of the kids, and let them be kids, with no cameras around. She is just plain…….grubby!!!
Lola B
Posted at 8:42 PM on September 2, 2010
How about a man that will love your kids and be good to them? Isn’t that what most normal women would want. If she can’t control them then maybe she should stop letting the nannies raise them. Kate shows those kids no love or affection which is very sad. They have been her ticket to fame and fortune. I really believe by her actions that she has no maternal feelings towards them at all. It’s very sad for them
tracy
Posted at 8:28 PM on September 2, 2010
autumn
Posted at 9:36 AM on September 3, 2010
Then she needs to quit joking around (and how would you know that’s what she’s doing), grow up and be a mother to her children. Why would she even think to say that, joke or not? How do you think it makes her kids feel for their mom to talk about them like that? Was she considering their feelings? If it walks like a duck….
Lola B
Posted at 8:26 PM on September 2, 2010
mika
Posted at 7:05 PM on September 2, 2010
Susan
Posted at 5:51 PM on September 2, 2010





















