Arnold is taking full blown responsibility for his cheating now, but just wait until he realizes you’re serious about the divorce — I bet he’ll become furious and nasty with you!
Why do I say this? Because I’ve seen it and lived through it. Arnold is one of those men who felt “entitled” to have his affairs AND to have a wife and family.
“He didn’t think he had a problem. He’s the kind of guy who only thinks he has a problem when he gets caught,” explains Dr. Gilda Carle, author of How to Win When Your Mate Cheats.
Arnold truly believed that he could have and was entitled to have both his beautiful and politically connected wife AND a bevy of mistresses – Mildred Baene, Gigi Goyette Jeffers and allegedly Tammy Tousignant- to satisfy his needs for “dangerous sex.”
He thought he was above everyday people because he was so famous and he didn’t think he had the same consequences as everyone else,” says relationship expert Rhonda Findling, author of The Commitment Cure: What to do When You Fall For an Ambivalent Man.
But it’s because he felt so entitled and so free of guilt about the situation, that he will soon become very angry when it sinks in that you are deadly serious about a divorce now.
He didn’t want you to split. In his own way, as much as he can for a narcissist — which he has to be — he does love you, Maria. And he does love his family.
He loves that you are a lady. He loves that you are politically connected. He still sees you as a trophy wife, even though he had his sex on the side.
The cheating had “nothing to do with his family. His wife and children were assets to him,” says psychiatrist Susan Abbott.
When he truly realizes that you’re taking those assets away, that you won’t be his trophy wife and run his home and household the way he likes, he will get angry like you wouldn’t believe!
Maria – he will blame YOU for breaking up the marriage and the family. He didn’t want a divorce. In his mind, he will be the one who is committed to the marriage. He didn’t initiate the split and move out. You did!
Once he feels justified in his own brain that you are to blame and the sting of public embarrassment wears off, he will start to make your life a living hell.
You better hire the best and toughest divorce attorney money can buy because Arnold will try to stiff you out of a big settlement. He may bar you from getting your personal belongings and marital assets out of the house. He may sue for sole custody of your two minor children.
Prepare for war!
I know because that’s exactly what my own father did. He cheated multiple times on my mom, and had a serious mistress, but when my mother finally found out everything and kicked him out, he pulled the blame game on her. He was furious that “she” ended the marriage.
Like Arnold, he didn’t think there was anything wrong with having a wife AND mistress and he hated my mom for calling him on it and refusing to go along with it.
He tried to make her and us pay the price for his anger and we did. We went from middle class comfort to practically penniless in an ugly divorce war.
So Maria, heed my warning. Just because Arnold is pulling all the right PR moves now, prepare for the worst. Take it from me, one who’s been through it.
–Bonnie Fuller
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Phil
Posted at 11:20 PM on May 28, 2011
With all the adultry in the Kennedy clan, I’m sure Maria knows all the rules. Arnold better watch his back side..
Sandra
Posted at 1:12 AM on May 26, 2011
At least he took good care of both his illegitimate son and his mistress, I’ll give him that. Some guys are such cads they just walk away and deny any responsibility at all. Regardless, all involved will be richer except poor Arnold. You would think men would learn to keep their pants zipped but they never do, never have.
Carla
Posted at 1:05 AM on May 26, 2011
I think people should leave both of then alone. He cheated like most men do and Maria will end up better than most women in the same situation. Funny how people get all worked up when it’s someone famous that is cheating when in reality it’s probably happening right next door.
Beth
Posted at 2:24 PM on May 21, 2011
Arnold had a pretty wife. I hope that he not being able to keep it in his pants was worth it..
mimi tholsted
Posted at 11:47 AM on May 21, 2011
Oh no Arnold is going quite with the doors right now — any mis-step will ruin his business, for this is what it is all about = money! he has everything on hold ……for the moment and I am sure he will give Maria via attorney what she needs …..so now he can continue his dirty life without Maria and maybe it is better for him, …but Arnold you are finish in politic…and watch out your films where you make yorself a hero, thats over too, but of course you can still produce……..what in h… where you thinking?????
Liam
Posted at 12:08 AM on May 21, 2011
Being a man, I totally agree. It’s all about control, not love! Kids are just utilities to feed his image of being a family man. Wifey is too. Money and power, the same. He does not know how to feel, except to have a strange sensation wrapped around his penis. Each mistress represents that. Hmmm, let’s see, which hand should I use tonight, right or left? To him, a woman is nothing but an extension of his hands, like do use oil, or jerk off high and dry. Smoke those cigars, Arnie, die early choking on your tongue cancer, but I’ll bet the day you die, you will have one of your hands on your weed wacker. Next time, pick prettier women! Stop being an Austrian and pick women that don’t look like Joe Jonas’ bulldog, please, don’t shame us men, like you just did. Thank you.
Carla
Posted at 1:07 AM on May 26, 2011
really hateful remarks. are you jealous or something?
diane
Posted at 4:25 PM on May 19, 2011
he is a pig a big pig at that he should be held accountble for all the shame he has caused his family i hope justice prevails for him
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Posted at 10:24 PM on May 18, 2011
Luckily for Maria she’s getting out before she got some kind of STD. How incredibly selfish of him no matter how famous and powerful,still just a guy who couldn’t be honest and faithful. He rode on her connection to one of America’s most loved families for too long. I hope he will do the right thing by her and humble himself before the American public and beg forgiveness. Give her more than half just for the emotional pain I’m sure all this has caused her. Be a real man Arnold and take responsibility for your actions and give her the peace she needs after such a public humiliation. And to the women envolved shame on you too, what did you really get out of it, your fifteen minutes of fame as a sluts.
lola
Posted at 7:43 PM on May 18, 2011
he’s a pig. Maria needs to get revenge by dating someone younger and hotter than him eventually!
Phil
Posted at 11:16 PM on May 28, 2011
Arnold can get another woman ‘any time’ he wants.. She is getting old and ugly.. Would hate to see what she looks like in a bathing suit..
J.C.Flipping
Posted at 7:07 PM on May 30, 2011
Well Phil I hope you are getting younger and handsomer as
time goes by. Arnold is a has been another male of the
species being ruled by a brainless head living with two nuts
next to an a-hole as most of you are.