The Duggar family held a memorial service for their 20th child Jubilee Shalom Duggar who passed away last week in utero, and the family handed out photos of the fetus with the quote ‘there is no foot too small.’
Michelle Duggar and her husband Jim Bob decided to take their memorial service for their daughter Jubilee Shalom Duggar to a very personal level. Hundreds of family and friends gathered at their church in Springdale, Ark., on Dec. 14 to celebrate the short life of their daughter Jubilee Shalom., who was miscarried in Michelle’s second trimester. Guests received what some would consider a shock when the memorial pictures containing images of the fetus were passed out and projected onto a large screen.
The 19 Kids & Counting stars had the following quote accompanied with the photos obtained by TMZ: “There is no foot too small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world.”
In the photo, Michelle is holding Jubilee’s tiny hands and feet. Amy Duggar, a cousin who occasionally appears on the TLC show tweeted the photos and wrote: “RIP precious Jubilee Shalom Duggar! Can’t wait to meet you someday, thank you Lord for giving our family peace.”
The photos have since been taken down from her Twitter account. To see the photos go to TMZ.
UPDATE: Find out how the kids are dealing with the miscarriage.
— Chloe Melas
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Karmadub
Posted at 11:15 PM on February 7, 2012
Personally for me, I’m not religious but I respect those who are. Whatever they decide to name their offspring or how they want to do things, even in times of grief, that’s their right.
However, I don’t think it’s wise to be having a large number of kids, given the state of our population at this point. The technology in medicine has advanced to the point more and more people are living longer. Our planet is overpopulating (it’s been proven in statistics) and there are going to be serious consequences if we keep breeding irresponsibly.
Ashley D.
Posted at 11:12 AM on February 6, 2012
Some Christians believe that it is not God’s plan to use birth control or attempt to not conceive when it is one of His greatest gifts to us. The Duggars are great parents and thanks to them have given the world 19 people to make a difference and become productive members of the community. If she were unhealthy or physically unable to conceive then they wouldn’t. Josie was 1 unhealthy child out of 19. Those are pretty good statistics and perfectly healthy women with none or few children miscarry. I wish them the best of luck.
Erin
Posted at 10:59 PM on February 5, 2012
I saw the photos that everyone is going on about and to be honest the photos are quite tasteful. I think it was a lovely idea and in the same position I would do it too. (Take similar photos)
brenda henne
Posted at 8:39 AM on February 4, 2012
Michelle our prayers are with you and your wonderful family..Keep your eyes on the Lord!!!We love you!!!!
Angel
Posted at 12:45 AM on January 9, 2012
I live in America and have been to 2 funeral services for babies that were under 25 weeks and didnt make it to this world before god called them home…. It is a heart breaking experience but in my opinion it gives the parents closure… I’ve had 5 miscarriages all under 9 weeks, and it’s very hard to let go of something u love so much but was never able to touch or see…. I only have memories of hearing a heartbeat one time… I always wonder what they would have looked like and what kind of personality they might have had… Don’t judge this family for the way they are dealing with the loss of a child, if it makes them feel better to have a service and pictures of their beloved daughter jubilee then let it be… Be happy for them and send them ur prayers.
janet hannam
Posted at 7:33 PM on January 1, 2012
In Canada, a miscarriage at 20 weeks or more requires a naming of the child and certificate of death. And yes, you have to deliver the baby. This is far and beyond a D&C. The medical staff that deals with this kind of loos, encourages strongly time with the baby and even some provide a memory box that conatines, footprints, a blanket the baby was next to, when possible a curl.
There are knitters just for preemies that make outfits for such occasions and some very sensitive photoraphers who will be present because this is a real experience, one that will mark the couple and or the family forever. And in a time where hospitals do everything to keep a baby alive at about 1 lb 3 oz, this child would have weighed over a pound and been perfectly formed ( only weight is needed and maturein of lungs)….So NO..they did exactly what was required of them by law if they lived in Canada.
If the baby had been born prematurely, heaven and earth would have been moved to do all that could be done to extend, if not save the baby’s life.
Nowadays, noone sees families of this size in our general population. This family has been honest regarding their beliefs and have done everything according to those beliefs. The only thing that does concern me are the idea’s put forth in PEOPLE magazine, in which the couple explained the time of abstinance following a birth.
It would not be unreasonable to wait until one baby is weaned and to avoid intimacy on the days that a woman can conceive until the babe-in-arms has had all the blessings of nursing.
My children were nursed for a year each, although optimin has been agreed to be at least 6 months. My cycles did not retrun until 9 months which makes me question if Michelle is allowing her hormones to run at norm for a few months before introducing a new pregnancy.
I have lived through infertility, childbirth and miscarriages, even one of a fraternal twin, leaving me mourning and praising at the same time.
Even 23 yrs later, and even as the surviving twin is expecting her own baby girl in April, I still tear up and wonder who and what was missed.
I am fortunate to have had 3 live births but there are 3 babies…..well, the promise of heaven awaits.
I will not judge the will of God, or this couples desire for a large family…but I will point out that we were given responsibilty and dominion over the earth, which means in this Minister’s daughter’s mind…that we were given permission to make decisions.
There is no woman who loves being pregnant and loves the baby/children/individuals it brings can help but fear or be saddened thinking of the end of her body’s ability to bear. Even as my child is pregnant I am wistfulas to how nice it would be to experience that again but with the knowledge I have now. But it is a new season now.
I am sorry for their loss. It will remain theirs, not ours. God’s plans are perfect and there is much to be done with what they have been blessed with. J
Trish Hilton
Posted at 7:55 PM on December 30, 2011
To all the Duggar family,
I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. People have no right to judge you by saying negative comments.
Sincerely,
Trish Hilton
mary
Posted at 12:00 PM on December 27, 2011
Dear duggar family,
I am soo sorry for your loss. My mom had a miscarriage when I was 7. So I know what the pain is like. You guys are in my thouhgt’s and prayer’s.But remember you will see your little girl in heaven soon. Merry Christmas!
Love,
Mary
gymasticsrox
Posted at 6:04 PM on December 30, 2011
They hav gone way to far. Josie almost died shouldn’t that have been a sign. This miscarriage is a sign from “god” that she shouldn’t be having any more babies
Sheryl
Posted at 6:47 PM on December 31, 2011
I agree enough is enough, almost loosing Josie, there should have never been another, so sad…I also think they need more of there mothers time, most of the time on the show the older girls are the caregivers for the babies, not fair to either the babies or the older girls. Jmo..
MIchelle
Posted at 1:36 PM on February 2, 2012
I so agree with you. Michelle needs to spend more mommy time with the younger ones, and not keep getting pregnant, since she obviously spends too much of her time doing other things she shouldn’t be doing. I really feel sorry for the older kids. Those older girls are more hands on with the lil ones than Michelle & Jim Bob are. No wonder they have to keep renewing their contract with TLC to help support all them kids.
Dawn
Posted at 8:24 PM on December 24, 2011
Everyone grieves in their own way.. who is anyone to say how they should grieve. Yes most of it think it is strange to have so many dang kids, but at least they take care of them (thanks to the show), there are so many kids being born that are abused, neglected, and not wanted.. Cut them some slack. People take photos of the dead all the time even when it is not their children, I know if one of my children died I would want every photo I could get, she never got to hold this baby, never got to feel its little finger wrapped around her finger.. regardless if she was not born yet, she was still a life in her womb and she was wanted and loved, and is grieving that she lost her regardless if it was sids, a car accident, cancer or a miscarriage it is still a huge loss…. as far as how big the funeral was.. Ummm well they have a big family and they have the money to do it so why not this is the ONE and ONLY thing they can ever do for her….
Yupp
Posted at 5:50 PM on December 21, 2011
Its a little weird giving a memorial sevice for a miscarage. Its like, they have so many kids and this can not be there first miscarage… Its hard having a miscarage I know but it really shouldn’t be like that, its more like a huge funeral. Yes a “child/fetus” died but you know.. Please no rude comments, this is my opinion I have had a miscarage at 36 weeks so don’t tell me I don’t know what it feels like!
MrsMiller
Posted at 1:53 AM on January 22, 2012
I’m sorry for your loss but a loss at 36 weeks is not a miscarriage, it’s a stillbirth.
The family should be left to grieve how they need to. Everyone is different and has their own way to grieve and heal, what might be right for you might not necessarily be right for someone else. Keep that in mind before you criticize.
red
Posted at 4:48 PM on December 21, 2011
I got to say that reading some of these post kind of made me sick to my stomac. these people who found away of griving such a tragity , its just appoling to think that anyone would critizis this family for something they belive in i had a miscarrage almost 4 years ago this very month and i didnt do anything to memorize the lost of my child, and its something that hurts me even today. there are things in life no one has the power to change, you just have to deal with it and keep living life with the memorie of a child theyll never know there always gona look at that empty chair and always wonder how she would look how she would sound laughing for the first time. come on give these people a break.
Jayne J.
Posted at 6:49 PM on December 20, 2011
What is wrong with you people? Go say bad things about bad people – not good people who are doing good things for their family and this sad pathetic world! What good have you done lately other than share your obvious stupid opinion!
Dottie
Posted at 10:38 AM on December 20, 2011
I know from experience that a miscarriage is a real sad thing. But I also feel that taking it to the news media is a little beyond. Feel it is a media ploy for the Duggers to get more out of their TV series. After 19, it is time to stop.
jayne J.
Posted at 6:57 PM on December 20, 2011
Says who? you? What right do you have?
BJ Jones
Posted at 9:29 PM on December 19, 2011
Sorry but having a large memorial service for a miscarriage
is beyond odd.
Jayne J.
Posted at 6:54 PM on December 20, 2011
…and none of your business unless you helped pay for it or something…
May
Posted at 7:00 PM on December 21, 2011
You must have no feelings, every child counts even if the baby didn’t have a chance to live a long life. You people have no heart, go critize someone else, not these good people.
Cara
Posted at 7:35 PM on December 19, 2011
What kind of name is Jubilee? Why cant they just sow up her vagina already!
Jayne J.
Posted at 7:06 PM on December 20, 2011
Um, “sow” up her vagina? Go to school much? Until you know how to spell the idiotic things you’re trying to say, maybe you should stay off the message boards…
May
Posted at 7:05 PM on December 21, 2011
Cara, do you have nothing better to do then talk about others. It ain’t your business how many kids she has or what comes out of her vagina. As long as she ain’t hurting you, you shouldn’t care what she does !
Blah blah blah
Posted at 8:29 PM on December 24, 2011
Wow exact reason why some people should stay in school Cara… Jubilee is a name the family wanted, what kind of name is Cara? I mean really grow up!
Cara B
Posted at 5:29 PM on January 4, 2012
Hey! Im not the poster above, but my name is cara too and I love my name! Its Irish for friend :)
To the other cara, I happen to think Jubilee is an absolutely beautiful name and it’s a parents right to name their child whatever they wish to. Why are you worrying about names anyway? Don’t you realise that something tragic and heartbreaking has happened?
linda
Posted at 1:24 PM on December 19, 2011
can you really give each child the individual attention they deserve when you have so many?maybe so?!
BJ Jones
Posted at 9:30 PM on December 19, 2011
NO, NO and NO !!!
Gray
Posted at 12:54 PM on December 19, 2011
Pathetic. Socially, morally and fiscally irresponsible.
Maybe God is trying to put a cork in her! Stop breeding you morons.
Maritza
Posted at 7:12 PM on December 21, 2011
(Gray) please don’t put The Lord in this! You do not know His thoughts! HE is sooooo beyond you!
Blah blah blah
Posted at 8:31 PM on December 24, 2011
I do believe someone higher up is telling her enough is enough.. but I do not believe we or anyone else has a right to tell them who or what they should believe in…
Duggars are my role models
Posted at 10:02 AM on December 19, 2011
I love the Duggar family, reminds me of my family. I wacth thier show even reruns, I pray that they will be okay. God took Jubilee beacuse he needed a baby angel. My friend had a baby a year ago and he died 5 days before Christmas. It was very sad to see him in a casket. We took alot of pics of him and we will see him up in hevan one day. I cant believe that alot of you are hurting this family. It doesnt matter if you have 1 or 20 or more kids, all I care about is to make sure that all the kids are taken care of. Michelle and Jim Bob and all your kids, family, friends, I wish you luck and you all will be okay, it takes time.
SLAXX
Posted at 4:44 AM on December 19, 2011
REMEMBER JESUS DID NOT HAVE ANY KIDS. HE WANT’SUS TO BE LIKE THE LITTLE CHILDREN-NOT JUST HAVE THEM. WHY CAN’T THESE
PEOPLE ADOPT?? HAVING CHILDREN IS FINE IF YOU WANT THEM, BUT HOW CAN YOU GIVE ADAQUIT ATTENTION TO ALL OF THEM. TALK TO SOME OF THESE SIBLINGS ONCE THEY ARE NO LONGER BRAIN WASHED IM SURE THEY WON’T BE BEATING THE SAME DRUM
Jayne J.
Posted at 6:51 PM on December 20, 2011
You are really stupid. Just thought I’d give you a reality check – LOSER!
Bev
Posted at 2:44 AM on December 19, 2011
It is sad that Michelle miscarried. I had three miscarriages, and some people have more, and can never have any children. I feel that they took this too far. It should have been a private time, and they could have just handled it that way. The fetus was not alive, and therefore, should not have been treated that way. The kids may have been a little sad, but they shouldn’t have to “handle” anything. I’m surprised that it wasn’t that they brought in a grief counselor. Surely they were prepared that something might happen, given their ordeal with the last baby.
Melanie Troup
Posted at 8:30 PM on December 18, 2011
I’m sorry, who’s a hatemonger? Your post is full of nothin but hate! I pray that the Lord will have mercy on your lonely soul! Christians do not hate. We are taught unconditional love. Only to love like Jesus. We are taught to embrace and love all of our brothers and sisters. Even you! Open your eyes, and really think about what it is you are saying. You sound like a person full of bitterness and anger. Good luck in life, I pray that you are not as miserable as you seem!
Just Saying
Posted at 6:16 PM on December 18, 2011
Maybe this is God’s way of protesting the fact that they were planning to name the poor kid Jubilee. I mean, REALLY.
ADHD
Posted at 10:54 AM on December 18, 2011
selfish scum, too many kids, omfg, we cant feed the ppl in the world as it is….HA, epic comment from Cecelia, It’s a vagina- not a clown car… Stop making more kids for an already over burdened planet… Geez
Melanie
Posted at 3:40 PM on December 28, 2011
If your so worried a bout how many people are on the planet why don’t you do us all a favor and jump off.
cecelia
Posted at 1:52 AM on December 18, 2011
It’s a vagina- not a clown car… Stop making more kids for an already over burdened planet… Geez
ansley grace
Posted at 11:12 PM on December 17, 2011
I don’t think its going to far everyone is making to much of a big deal out of it…….I’m. So sorry for your loss, if the duggers read this all I. Can say is keep trusting God!!!!!!!!!!
ADHD
Posted at 10:55 AM on December 18, 2011
god???? go to hell, your religion has caused a lot of problems in this world, population explosion, violence, child abuse. gos has nothing to do with it fool, its called life, ppl die. jesus would be ashamed of most christians, you are hate mongers and homophobes
Jayne J.
Posted at 6:59 PM on December 20, 2011
Um – who is gos anyway? Ha! And with that – you now become the real fool. Learn to spell and learn who to blame for violence – it’s not God. IDIOT!
kzk
Posted at 7:33 PM on December 20, 2011
I am praying for you.
Luanne
Posted at 4:08 PM on December 28, 2011
It’s really sad that some people have nothing better to do than judge other’s and tell them what is right and what is wrong. Weather you decided to have a memorial for you’re dead child, is a personall decision between you and you’re family members…..regardless if it’s an unborn child or not….it’s still a baby and mabey that is their way of closure for the unborn child….that’s their decision and whatever give’s them happiness and close make’s god happy. As for you ADHD……I’ve only seen two of youre remarks and i’m no therapist, but you…really have some anger issues, that’s very obvious, get some help and stop being so judgemental when you can’t even contain you’re own thought’s and action’s as which goes along with ADHD. God bless the duggars.
Kathy
Posted at 1:56 AM on February 7, 2012
It is NOT A FETUS! The Angel said
“with child” “His name will be called Jesus”…not ‘the fetus name will be called Jesus”. It is a baby folks. Also, women can have as many kids as they would like, so get off of the number thing. If you want to talk about someone, talk about the loser mom’s who go to doctors that kill their babies everyday on purpose. The abortionists and people who believe in it are whaco. A country is in really bad shape when moms start killing their own blood. I would do anything to protect my babies. How about you?